Dear Adrian,
I completely understand and respect your feelings. I was there for the debacle and cried like a baby. Though the guys were the epitome of grace and dignity. It is a wonderful experience as a whole, but last year's travesty wasn't wonderful. However I know that not everyone feels as I do, thus the invitation. I will attend in the future simply because I am in the business and it is my job. And like many things in life there are very good and very bad things. Mostly I look forward to the changes that will be made with people like Heath and Jake now being voting members and replacing the intolerant and embarrassing old guard. I will support and stand by your decision til the cows come home because I know where in your heart it comes from and you are right. But also I will hopefully at some point be a part of the new machinery that will abolish behavior like last year's. As far as an apology and after thought, you bet it was. They knew they really screwed up. Not just with gays with the majority of decent people in the world. But in my heart of hearts I feel that in their haste to try to absolve themselves of their sin, they actually shot themselves in the foot because they invited in a group of people who will see to it that changes are made and that they are made rapidly. So it is my deep hope that we shall all have the last laugh. Throughout history, change has most often been borne of pain and protest, some of the greatest changes in our country have come that way, I truly in my heart believe that will be the case here so I try to look to the change because there is no way I will ever be able to reconcile the event. I can't even begin to tell you what I felt in my heart sitting there that night. Not in a thousand years and I wasn't the only one. I truly wasn't.
God bless you and thank you for standing up for your beliefs, I admire and respect that so much.
theresa