If you click on the link below, you will see the trailer of BBM, with the extra bit of Ennis crying with the shirts.....its beautiful, and heartbreaking.
http://www.megaupload.com/?d=yewf1ui4
Oh Christie, thank you. Mystery solved, then -- the Ennis-crying-deleted-scene is in the trailer (along with other scenes not in final version). I just watched it and I'm at work, so I didn't have sound on and couldn't keep playing it over and over etc., so I can't wait to get home and save it and watch it over and over... It's funny, because I did have a picture in my mind of this "missing scene," I guess because I had seen this trailer, but before I saw the movie a dozen times, and didn't realize the scene wasn't in the movie.
Anyway, more words than necessary, but thank you!
kathy